Last Sunday Pastor Steve taught on the first 3 laws of boundaries. Since this information is something we can all benefit from, we thought we’d post a few notes about it.
Don’t be misled: No one makes a fool of God. What a person plants, he will harvest. The person who plants selfishness, ignoring the needs of others—ignoring God!—harvests a crop of weeds. All he’ll have to show for his life is weeds! But the one who plants in response to God, letting God’s Spirit do the growth work in him, harvests a crop of real life, eternal life.
The Law of Sowing and Reaping
Our actions have consequences.
God has set in motion the law of cause and effect. To learn from our life patterns each of us must be allowed to reap what we have sown. Whether that is good or bad seed is up to us.
When we interrupt the law of sowing in reaping in the lives of those we love we do them a disservice and they are doomed to repeat the same life choices until we allow cause and effect to work.
As Pastor Scott said Monday before communion, the only exception to this law is found in the truth that God through His infinite mercy allows us to reap both here and now and eternally that which was sown by Jesus Christ.
Galatians 5:13-15 It is absolutely clear that God has called you to a free life. Just make sure that you don’t use this freedom as an excuse to do whatever you want to do and destroy your freedom. Rather, use your freedom to serve one another in love; that’s how freedom grows. For everything we know about God’s Word is summed up in a single sentence: Love others as you love yourself.
Law #2 The Law of Responsibility
We are responsible to each other not for each other.
I can’t feel your feelings for you, I can’t think for you, I can’t behave for you.
A strong strand throughout the Bible is that we are to give to needs and put limits on sin. Boundaries help us do that.
Romans 7 17:20
But I need something more! For if I know the law but still can’t keep it, and if the power of sin within me keeps sabotaging my best intentions, I obviously need help! I realize that I don’t have what it takes. I can will it, but I can’t doit. I decide to do good, but I don’t really do it; I decide not to do bad, but then I do it anyway. My decisions, such as they are, don’t result in actions. Something has gone wrong deep within me and gets the better of me every time.
Law #3 The Law of Power
We have power over some things; we don’t have power over others
It is important that we learn the power we have in this life to live within Boundaries and where that power comes from.
You have the power to:
*Agree with the truth about your problems (confession
*To submit your inability to God and turn your life to Him
*To ask God and others to reveal more about what is within your boundaries
*To make amends with those you have injured
*To forgive those who have hurt you
The best way I know to begin to get healthy boundaries in our lives is to daily take time and pray the serenity prayer. Then to use that prayer as a check up.
How am I doing in accepting the things(people) I cannot change?
Am I changing the things I can with God’s help?
Do I seek God’s wisdom in knowing the difference in those two things?
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things that I can, and the wisdom to know the difference